The PUA Archives – Comments

I’ve been with HBblue for a year now. And over the past 2 months I’ve noticed that she seems to be losing interest, in the animal/sexual sense, while becoming more "interested" in me as a provider type (she told me several weeks ago "I want to marry you.&quot She doesn’t get as wet for me anymore, and our sex in general has gotten stale.

How did this happen? As I see it several factors are in play here(and they all relate to being a challenge):
1. I’ve neglected to continue to social proof myself with other chicks.
2. I’ve been too available to her. We see each other 4-5 times a week.
3. I’ve been too sexually eager with her. Meaning I have almost always been ready to fuck whenever she’s wanted to… Not a bad thing I guess except that she hasn’t been as sexually eager as me.
4. I’ve verbalized frustration with her (lack of) sexual desire, and had a couple other "relationship talks"

My plan, point by point:
1. Begin to game other girls again. Note: My LTR is exclusive, but I’ll game up to the point of cheating and stop.
2. See her less frequently, 3-4 times/week, and spend my free time working on the many things I want to do/learn
3. Make her work for my dick. Several months ago, I semi-jokingly said told HBblue "if you cook for me tonight, I’ll fuck you." She took it entirely as a joke, and shot back "you’ll fuck me either way." She didn’t cook, and I fooled around with her, talked dirty and fingered her, stuck the tip in, and then pulled out, got dressed and left. She was pissed/insanely horny, and told me the next day that was the most turned on I’d ever made her.
4. This is simple. STOP TALKING ABOUT THIS SHIT WITH HER. I’ll probably be back on here asking how to best sub-com something within the next month or so, but so help me, I will not have a "talk" with her again about this stuff. I know better.

I know some of you will immediately want to say "this post sounds needy… why put all this effort into this ONE girl?" But my perspective is I’m putting the effort into me. I need to toughen up, and to see the benefits of being more of a challenge/less needy firsthand. Any thoughts/advice welcome.