The PUA Archives – Comments

promiscuityrules wrote:
…..
> Hey RJ.
>
>I know from your archive posts
>you like to qualify her for
>what you’re after- you have
>your goal: passionate,
>adventurous girls, that like
>to travel, for mLTRs. Not
>sure if you still look for
>that.

Yes, I’ve tweaked this slightly but it’s still fairly valid.

>It seems like you’re saying
>that you read her before
>approaching

OK, just a quick comment. There are some things that I can read about a chick before I approach, and there are somethings that I can’t find out about her until after I’ve started interacting with her.

>and make an
>assessment of what she’s after
>and then adjust your goal to
>what you think hers might be?

Well with some girls I can read that they are after ONS or something just for the night. However it’s impossible for me to know that she is strictly looking for an LTR without actually talking to her.

>Or do you just have a
>steadfast goal when you go out
>and ONLY approach girls that
>you think would meet it?

This was what I first started doing when I joined this board. I’d have my goals for the night or what kind of relationship I was looking for.

However I approached ALL CHICKS THAT I FOUND ATTRACTIVE, NOT JUST THE ONES I THOUGHT WOULD MEET MY GOAL. This is important to remember.

I wasn’t as good at "reading" chicks before approaching, so alot of this was finding out what the chick was like after I approached and get her to conform to my goals.

>You see the difference?
>Giving her what she’s looking
>for versus finding someone who
>is looking for the same thing
>you are.

Yes, I understand what you are saying.

Several years ago, I had these 2 things mutually separated.

But nowadays, I’ve found a balance somewhere in between these two alternatives.

When I meet chicks today it’s not so much about me giving her what she’s looking for or trying to find a girl who wants what I want.

Instead, I push the interaction so that we both make slight adjustments/compromises and find some middle ground, but at the same time benefit from our differences.

Did that make any sense?

-Razorjack

"Why do we chase women instead of settling for one – like most of the other guys in the world? No clue. We are a unique class of guys. Maybe we got cut off too early from our mother’s milk – so we spend the rest of our lives looking for that same titty again." – Zan